If children are involved in the midst of a divorce the judge will use his discretion to determine whether both parents will share custody of the child/children or which one of the two parents will be the custodial parent and which parent will be the visiting parent.
If you are the visiting parent, then the judge will decide whether your visits need to be supervised or not. Supervised visitation is done to ensure the safety of the child around the visiting parent.
You will be entitled to supervised visitation rights that you need to earn for yourself and this means building a good reputation and name for yourself. Apart from the child’s safety and happiness the judge will look into many factors before granting you your supervised visitation rights.
Here’s how you can earn your supervised visitation rights –
- Don’t display any signs of physical or emotional violence in front of the child. The child’s happiness and safety are of the utmost important to the judge and if the child displays any signs of unhappiness or fear during the visit then you will lose your supervised visitation rights.
- Give up any bad habits that you might have whether it’s smoking, drugs or alcohol. The child does not need to be subjected to any further trauma or negativity especially after already having to deal with the separation of his parents. Also if you have any bad habits that could potentially harm the child or rub off onto the child the judge will deny you your supervised visitation rights.
- Be a good parent to the child always. This is the best way you can earn your supervised visitation rights. Comfort the child and don’t show any stress or anger from the divorce. Help the child with his schoolwork and play with him as much as you can. Never let the child feel guilty or at fault because of the divorce.
The New Hampshire Parenting Support Center’s (NHPSC) main objective is to assist families in difficult divorce transitions by providing them with a potential setting for neutral, supervised visitation. This week, we are addressing the benefits in using these impartial settings for supervised visitations for children and parents.
Typically, children are the main reason for people to use visitation centers. Most of these programs aim to provide a welcoming, fun and safe environment for the family unit. The unbiased atmosphere gives children the chance to be excited about visitations, since anxiety and potential parental confrontations are avoided. The visit becomes about maintaining the relationship, and not about the court proceedings. Seeing both parents help children to adjust positively in the divorce process, even with the family dissolution.
The parents benefit from supervised visitations also. Visitation details are typically made through agencies, so the parents do not have to have any direct contact with each other. This can be a stress reducer in a highly stressful situation. In heated divorce hearings, supervised visitations are often sought because the parents can visit with the children without worries that false allegations will be presented in the divorce proceedings. Case notes may be written and can potentially be used as character witness reports.
Using a professional third-party visitation agency, such as New Hampshire Parenting Support Center, is beneficial over using a friend or relative. Using someone you know can put strain on the relationship. It may also be hard for your ex-spouse and you to agree on the same person. A third-party agency will provide unbiased, and properly documented, support. Your lawyer may have resources for local agencies that specialize in supervised visitations. If they are court mandated, it is recommended your lawyer and potential visitation agency both review the visitation documents to make sure all needs are properly met.