Once the judge passes the decree of divorce, that doesn’t mean that the ties are completely cut between you and your spouse. You might have certain financial matters to discuss and assets to divide. You might have children, which may
require you to deal with your ex-spouse on a regular basis, so it is important to maintain a healthy and friendly relationship with your ex-spouse even after your divorce.
Here’s how you should treat your ex-spouse post divorce
Make sure to treat your ex-spouse with respect and dignity even if you struggle to remain in the same room with him/her. Especially in front of your children, it is important to handle your ex-spouse carefully and not show any sort of anger, resentment or hatred towards them in front of the children. Children tend to mimic or imitate the parent’s behavior, so once they observe you being hostile towards your ex-spouse they might repeat the same behavior. You may be divorced, but responsible parenting is still your duty.
Keep your new life personal and don’t involve your ex-spouse in your new personal life. If you’ve started a new job, moved into a new place or even started seeing someone new, it is advisable to keep your ex-spouse away from all these developments. Maintain a very neutral relationship with your ex-spouse so that you don’t accidentally start to have feelings for him or her all over again and get caught up in the same web.
Don’t show any ill feelings towards your ex-spouse, as this could influence the decision of the judge–if these feelings become known–when it comes to custody of the children and financial matters. Don’t try to dig too deep into the financial assets of your ex-spouse and leave all the ‘dirty work’ to your auditors and legal consultants after your divorce.