Filing for a divorce during the holidays can add stress to the season. However, more divorce filings happen the first few days of January than any other time during the year. Many parents believe that staying together for the months of November and December are beneficial to the family unit, yet they individually behave selfishly. If you have not filed for divorce yet, use this holiday season to begin the co-parenting process early and use the next few weeks to relax and enjoy the holiday season.
How To Handle A Divorce During The Holidays
Be flexible with your holiday celebrations. Schedule your plans around your parenting agreement. For example, many people think that Thanksgiving has to be celebrated on a late Thursday in November. They fail to miss that the holiday is about celebrating with family and it does not necessarilly have to occur on one single day. By focusing on one day, versus the overall holiday tradition, parents risk putting the children in the middle. Yet, if you are flexible with a divorce during the holidays, the children may be able to celebrate the holiday multiple times.
Many families handle the holidays by splitting up each holiday. This option works if the parents live close since each parent will have the children on the specific day. However, it can make for a stressful situation since there will be transitions between parents and time restraints.
Another way some families deal with divorce during the holidays is by alternating each holiday between the parents. For example, one parent will have the children for a holiday this year, and next year the children will celebrate with the other parent.
You and your soon-to-be ex are the only two that knows what is right for your family. However, by efficiently coming up with a co-parenting holiday agreement, you are setting your family up for long-term holiday cheer instead of long-term holiday stress. Check out our website and other blog postings for more tips how to cope with divorce.